Max came back into RAGOM about a month ago and we had no idea what we were in for. Christy and Joe were Max’s first foster, they had him for a day and found out the hard way he had Severe Separation Anxiety. It was so bad that they could never leave the house because Max would find a way out of the house by any means. He is an escape artist. Thus we came in, it was decided Christy, Joe, Connie and Rick would duel foster Max and see if we could help him.
Let’s just say the first week was a nightmare, we did nothing right for Max and we were going the wrong direction, so Max came to stay with Rick and Connie. We worked hard on getting Max comfortable with being by himself. We thought meds would help, so we tried that, all of a sudden this wonderful family of 6 came into Max’s life. They knew all about his issues, but they still wanted to love him and help him with life. So Monica and Willie became Max’s family. We all had hoped he would make the transition with few problems, but for some reason I know this would not go well.
Monica and Willie spent 4 sleepless nights trying to get Max comfortable with life at their house. We knew on Monday there was no way it was going to work and so Max came back to Rick and Connie’s house. Because Max could make it out of everyone’s house, including ours we knew he was not safe. We consulted a wonderful behaviorist and she confirmed what we already knew. It was not going to be good.
Dr. D walked Rick and Connie through our possible lives for the next 6 months to a year if we decided to keep trying to rehabilitate Max. It would mean sedating Max for the first month and than gradually take him off and start to work with leaving him for seconds at a time and hopefully within a year we would be able to go out to dinner and stay out for an hour or so. But this also meant that Max would become a forever foster because he would never be able to go to another house. A year of someone always being at the house is just not feasible for anyone and it is no way for a dog to live.
So RAGOM made the decision that we would allow Max to cross over the Rainbow Bridge and meet with Bacon who just went over the bridge last month. We know Max will finally be free from his panic attacks and his anxiety; he will finally be at peace and understand that we as his foster and his family (Monica and Willie) only have his best interest at hand. We would never hurt this young boy, even when he tried desperately to head butt his way out doors and windows.
I ask that you love your dogs, understand your dogs and please I am begging you, never leave your dogs sitting alone and scared for 12 hours a day each and every day, they need your love and companionship. Please don’t allow your dog to become another Max, because it is so devastating for the fosters and families that need to deal with the SA issues.
Max, you will be missed forever because you have made such a deep impression on us. I can not imagine what the days are going to be like without you, but I can promise you this, we will go on and help others just like you, I miss you so much!
Rick and Connie Full time foster
Joe and Christy – Fill in foster
Monica and Willie – Max’s long lost almost family
From Foster Mom Christy –
Good bye Max :( I miss you so much. More than you will ever know. I am so thankful I was able to meet you, so thankful I was able to love you, and so glad you let me in, even though our time together was way too short. I will never forget your smile, your soft fur, you had the furriest head I have ever seen... such long hair on the top of your head! It was perfect for petting :) That is what you loved most of all, to snuggle up as close as you could get, and lean in for some love. You thought you should always be in some one's lap :) even though you are a big boy... I let you anyway.
I know that you are free now. You don't have to be scared anymore. You don't have to panic, don't have to try and escape. You are free to run, free to play! I know that there are people to pet your head, and to snuggle you, and lakes to swim in because that is what you loved most of all, and that is what you deserve. I am sorry we couldn't give you what you needed here. But, I know that we have given you peace and that is the only thing that is getting all of us through. You are so loved you beautiful, goofy, boy! You have no idea the amount of lives you have touched and how deeply we love you buddy! I hope we were able to give you a small part of what you have given to us. I love you Max, and I will never, ever forget you.
Thank you Connie, Rick, and family for trying all they could do to help. Thank you R Family for falling in love with Max and trying your best to make him a part of your family forever. And thanks to all of the other RAGOM volunteers that have offered their kind words and support.
Bye Max. We love you and miss you so very much!
Love,
Christy, Joe, and "the girls"
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