As a foster you have the opportunity to share your home with many different 'types' of dogs. I have had puppy mill mommas, runners, abused, loved, dogs given up due to allergeries, but never a dog with Separation Anxiety. It's a whole new life for me in fostering.
I am not going to rehash Murphy's previous time in foster or doggy day care. Being upfront and truthful about my fosters is paramount to making a match that will last. Murphy has been very lucky in having had a foster home when he came in and then to spend time with a very special lady named Maureen at doggy day care. We all agreed it was time for Murph to move back in to foster care.
Separation anxiety is a sad thing to behold, especially in a dog. They just can't deal with being separated from their human(s)!! That is the bottom line. Murphy had to deal with his brother, Yosef 10-390 coming in to RAGOM before he did. It was very traumatizing for him. Time helped us to figure out meds were needed, a playmate or play dates, and someone who could help to learn his crate was a safe place. This happened at doggy day care
 Murphy half in his 'dining room' |
Forward to Murphy in a new vehicle, meeting his new foster bro, Jax the cocker, a ride to a new place. Things were going well. I leashed Murphy up for a tour of the house, make sure he didn't 'mark' any new territory etc. He did awesome til we hit the bed room and 2 of the 3 cats were on the bed. I let him go up to them and sniff, Bailey hissed, growled, spat at him and then Murphy, I guess, decided he wanted a closer look. Sudsy took off and Bailey hit under the bed. Murphy decided he should go under the bed. Bailey ran, Murphy tried and I held on. Thus we began life in St Cloud. I spoke with his doggy care provider and she said he had been fine with her cat, her cat would stand up to him and swat him. OK I thought we can wait this out and handle it. The problem was Murphy became obsessed with cats. He would sniff and pace and run from one area to the next looking for them. So, I thought let's try a meeting I'm in control of. I got one of the cats and held them on my lap and let Murphy sniff....but then he wanted more, the cat got loose and ran. The next night Coulter the cat, who is afraid of no dogs and is sure they all love him, came up to the family room and jumped on the back of the couch. Murphy woke up, eventually saw Coulter. I held his collar and waited to see which way this would go. Murphy did the 'hard stare' and then tried to get Coulter. From here on it's been look for the cats, see a cat and bark, see or sniff a cat that's been on the deck, pace and pace looking for the cat. So, that said I don't think Murphy belongs in a house with a cat(s) unless the cat wants to take his chances, stand his ground and hand out a punch. My cats are dog savvy and none of them will go near Murphy.
So Murphy has a Great Dane sized crate. More than enough room, it sits in the kitchen looking out the glass sliding doors unto the deck and nature. First day he kenneled up, I went to work. Came back 4 hours later, he was very happy to see me. I was told to take him out to potty immediately and he would probably jump and carry on, but I should turn my back on him til he settled down........usually by getting distracted by something else. That worked out fine. Back in the house he went cat hunting:( OK we'll keep moving forward. I put his food in his crate with his door open, and tell him to eat and then ignore him by sitting at the table and reading or watching t.v. He is a sloppy eater, he grabs food, drops a little on the way out of the crate, then goes back for more. No problem, Jax cleans up the leftovers. First night at bed time he paced and sniffed where the cat had been, finally settled in, but had me up 2 times during the night. That's ok. Next day same routine except I got stuck on the phone at work and got home about at 4 1/2 hours not 4! Oh my. He had broke part of the plastic bottom try in his crate, pooped, peed, pushed his water dish out and pulled in the rug off the floor. But he was excited to see me. Not so much on my part. Got him out, cleaned it all up and moved on.
I didn't go to work on Fri. as I just didn't know what to expect with him crated now. I have no idea why 4 hours is the magic mark; did one of the cats come out.....Coulter loves to sit on the rug in front of the door in the kitchen. THAT would drive Murphy crazy. So he's been on vacation from the crate until last night when I crated him while I ran next door, hubby in the family room, the other 2 dogs hanging out. When I came home there was Murphy to greet me. I asked FD why he let him out. He DIDN'T. I was very careful to close and lock both sliders on the cage. The bottom one was open and he was out. We'll try a lock tomorrow.
The first few days with his obsession with the cats he really didn't come for attention much. That has changed, he is my shadow in every sense of the word, up to and including laying next to the bath tub while I'm using it. If I get up to go run inside to get a glass of water, he goes with. I am not out of his sight, and if I do get away a minute and he figures it out you can find him barking and pawing to get in.
Water is no longer available in my house, Murph is a huge water drinker (preferred to beer or wine:) and can take a vast majority with him from the bowl in the laundry room to the bathroom and then down the hall to the kitchen. I have offered him the mop but apparently being a guest he feels no obligation to clean up after himself. Large bowls of water are available outside on the deck and patio. It helps me control his drinking, Jax is fine and the cats have their own room with food and water.
We went to the lake yesterday and he LOVES the lake, the dock, the smells, wanted to go on the pontoon (not our place or toys), was great with 2 different males dogs coming over to visit-one neutered and one NOT!!! His recall is very good, simply call his name and tell him NO come and he does. After 3 hours at the lake everyone was tired and all 3 dogs slept on the way home (Daisy is our cousin's 9 month old yellow lab). Everyone was hosed off and fed upon landing at home. Murphy wasn't real hungry and I worry as he usually eats 6, yes SIX, cups of food a day and he ate maybe half his evening portion. Everyone was pretty played out....til 10:30 when I wanted to go to bed and Daisy and Murphy broke out in PLAY.....up and down the stairs and Murphy barking away. Aah to be young and be able to party after 10PM.
So, here is what it comes down to for Murphy. He needs all things that are listed in his previous updates PLUS NO CATS, and someone he can be with all the time, be it at home or work. He needs to remain on his meds, and 4 hour SEEMS to be his crate time limit, but not knowing if one of the cats was out to taunt him, there is no way to be sure. I am hoping to get all 3 cats outside tomorrow or locked in the basement, just so he can't see them. Once he sees them it's 'on'. He paces a lot to begin with, but with the cats it's nerve wracking. He has a high metabolism and and I don't expect the food amount to change. He's long, tall, lanky and loving.
I also discovered during last potty last night, he does NOT like fire crackers. He doesn't bark, pant or carry on, but heads inside and was fine. Guess we'll find out more tonight and probably the rest of the week:(
Murphy is a loving, needy, sweet boy who needs someone who wants to share their life on a daily basis together with only short breaks. He loves to go in the car, go for walks, gentle leader needed, loves other dogs and plays well, and is friendly with all people. Thus far he has bonded with women, but would do well with men, though to be honest if with a couple he would be the woman's dog. No doubt. And loves the lake!
So if you are still reading and your heart is murmuring this is the boy, contact your placement advisor and let's talk. We all have special needs, Murphy just needs a bit more:)
Foster Mom and the troops
(the cats would appreciate a quick adoption:)
 We are going to the lake....... |
 Ready to ride |
 Murphy and cousin Daisy Duke at the lake |
 Murphy playing with cousin Daisy Duke |
 Murphy with resident Jax and Daisy Duke |