I started to write to you about the plan that I had for Dakota and how well it has worked, but then I realized that you have placed many, many rescue dogs and my lengthy story probably wasn't needed or wanted.
Thanks to foster mom Sheila, I was prepared for Dakota's arrival some 7+ weeks ago [July 31st]. He was, as Sheila had said, quite frightened and under a lot of stress. In less than six months his life had been turned upside down and at age 10 [just had his birthday] he had been through so much. His owner had been hospitalized, he was placed in a kennel, then moved to a RAGOM foster home for three months, and again transferred to a Forever Home. He went from an "only" dog to living with four other dogs, back to an only dog. He certainly proved how resilient Goldens can be.
I put my plan to work and I'm happy to announce that it has been most successful. The early days were so rough for all of us. Dakota was so scared of just about everything. I established myself as Alpha person and he followed me everywhere. Sheila called him a "Velcro" dog. His first shock was that I would not let him in the bathroom with me. He tried to get in and then pasted himself against the door. Every move I made, he made with me. Every time I moved, I gave him a hug. I talked to him constantly, trying to assure him everything would be ok soon.
Unfortunately he had to have some dental surgery that really couldn't wait, but thanks to my wonderful vet and clinic staff, he got through it like a real trouper. He was not, however, happy that I had to take his bones away from him for a couple of weeks.
The days and weeks have flown by. My plan seems to be working. Dakota doesn't get up every time I do. In the mornings he sleeps in on his big comfy bed in the corner of the bedroom where he feels safe and doesn't move until I am ready to go downstairs. And he takes his sweet time getting up too. He seems to like the routine we laid out for him. He also likes the "specials" we're establishing for him.....like a spoon of ice cream that has been slightly micro waved to soften it for him at noon [my husband thought he should be spoiled just a little]. He and I have "our time" in the afternoons before going down for dinner. He gets a massage, he responds with his rolly pollies, and we play for a while. His daily attention is focused on our many resident chipmunks...oh how he loves them. We go out on the deck early in the morning after he's had his breakfast and again in the afternoon after dinner, and he looks for them and enjoys our outings.
He has pretty much shed his "Velcro" title. Most days after he eats, he is at liberty to go in and out the back door. This has given him control over his life and decision making. He loves sniffing around the backyard where the chipmunks, mice, and squirrels have been. Early on, he would lay between us on the couch in the family room...but that has tapered off now too.
Sheila warned me that he had some storm fear and separation anxiety. After watching him for a while I felt this was not something he'd had his whole life and that it started with the sudden changes in his life. I have used the Rescue Remedy drops and they have helped a bit, but I am using suggestions put out by Tufts University and that is to give such a dog more chances to have control over its life and the ability to make its own decisions. I've been a far more liberal mom than ever in my life. At times I'm scared to death and hold my breath while I'm watching him, but it seems to be working. At first he wouldn't even go out when it was cloudy and misting...that was without any thunder or lightening. Now he seems to kind of enjoy trying and if he does make it out, he loves to roll in the wet grass, forgetting that he's scared. The big storms are still a huge problem, but we continue to work on it.
As for the separation anxiety. I have not left him alone yet. That's my next step. I didn't feel I should tackle all of the problems at once and having me here constantly has helped him settle in. He is the most loving dog and so sweet. I think he might have had a little obedience work, but he needs more and that will come this winter. I am going to use "Clicker" training with him rather than the traditional. A gentle leader goes along with that while he's learning. This will give him some challenge during the long months his chipmunks are sleeping.
Dakota has given us so much at a time when we were hurting so badly. I lost two dogs in less than a year. My last - a Golden - required 24/7 nursing care for 8 months starting just several weeks after I lost my Melodie. I was exhausted and hurting so much but suddenly facing an empty house after years and years and no one to hug, love, or cry with was more than we could handle. My Golden was supposed to be my last dog because of my age, but I'd expected him to live another 4-5 years. Dakota seems to understand and he's there for us and we're there for him. We call him Chaucie most of the time but he doesn't seem to mind.
I think he finally has accepted us as his forever home. He "woofs" if he hears the paper person early in the morning, and when he hears the garage door. He alerts me to strange noises and other things. This morning he decided to take his exploring to new heights and got into the fenced in garden and out into the fenced in side yard. All of this time he's looked at it all from afar. I just had to laugh rather than getting upset with him. I asked him if he was trying to run away back to Iowa...I don't think so..I think it's just that he considers this home now. He's making decisions all on his own without looking back at me or even waiting to be told it's "ok". Seeing him assert himself is to gratifying. Seeing him relaxed and the smile on his face and watching him jump up and down when he plays with us tells us we've managed to bring some stability back into his life and let him know he's loved and safe. I'm sure in the back of his mind he still wonders about all that has happened to him, but keeping him busy with fun and challenging days and heaps of love and understanding is helping him feel that he has a safe and loving home again.
[I'm sorry this is so long...I didn't mean for it to be. It's just that this has been such a wonderful time for us and we are so glad that we decided we could provide a home for a rescue Golden. The rewards have been far, far greater than ever imagined.]
Kindest Regard,
Katie W
Dakota's Forever Mom

